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I am definitely not a psychologist, although my wife has suggested I get a degree in psychology. The views behind today’s post on working with sociopaths in business results from dealing with a variety of bad personality types and managing relationships with them in my career. A few of these individuals could only be described as corporate sociopaths. If you happen to be working for one directly, they definitely make horrible bosses.

What are the characteristics of a sociopath in business?

Here’s an official description of what a sociopath is, but from an organizational perspective, the behaviors below suggest how to spot a sociopath in business. To gauge if you’re working with one, ask yourself if the person in question:

  • Superficially compliments an individual then quickly attacks and/or criticizes them in much greater depth?
  • Displays a sense of superiority and talking down to others?
  • Addresses and subsequently changes topics in an apparently random fashion?
  • Displays a micro-focus on topics of intense interest to them which don’t relate to significant (or even real) organizational issues?
  • Repeatedly undermines progress by creating havoc and disruption within the organization?
  • Appears to live in a “fictional world” where their intentions, behaviors, and actions appear to have little relationship to reality?
  • Accuses others of the very detrimental behaviors they display?
  • Is tremendously contradictory in their behavior without any apparent rhyme or reason for their actions?
  • Spreads falsehoods for no obvious reason, including lies which don’t seem to even directly benefit them?
  • Alternates between showing another person intense focus and then completely ignoring them?

Sound maddening? It is when you are dealing with a sociopath in business.

If you see an individual demonstrating a majority of these sociopath traits coupled with a general sense they’re hard to do business with, you are likely dealing with a corporate sociopath (at least by my definition).

What are steps to dealing with a sociopath in business?

One key I’ve found to accomplishing things while working with horrible bosses and other sociopaths in business is to skillfully work around them. If a sociopath thwarts progress, it’s vital to maneuver them away from important initiatives that will move the organization forward. Let sociopaths in business wreak havoc on efforts which won’t make huge differences one way or another.

The following suggestions are premised on you not being able to take formal steps for dealing with a sociopath in your organization. If you can’t act formally, from personal experience (including reporting to at least one corporate sociopath), these 7 steps will help you be more successful in working with sociopaths in business and horrible bosses despite their negative behaviors.

1. Determine the individual’s underlying motivation as best you can.

If you can determine this accurately, it becomes your backdrop for anticipating a sociopath’s potential actions. For example, after a co-worker suggested the ego of a senior leader in our business was his Achilles’ heel, the proper strategy was clear: “blow smoke” to steer his attention whenever he was around. Hint: The motivation is typically going to link to personal attention or affirmation.

2. Don’t believe anything you can’t independently corroborate.

Operate with the understanding you can’t believe anything a corporate sociopath says. Because of this, continually gather information you’ll need to assess what’s going on. Be seen as a confidant within the organization. Ask open-ended questions, listen, and observe what’s actually happening.

3. Minimize one-off conversations and avoid decisions during them.

If you’re working with a corporate sociopath, to the extent you can, use one-on-one conversations to ask questions and engage in harmless small talk which may help you better understand the individual. Avoid using one-on-one conversations as decision making opportunities because you want witnesses for the decisions a corporate sociopath makes. Push decision making to meetings where others are present who can corroborate decisions and direction setting when they’re inevitably changed later.

4. Continually hone your flexibility and scenario planning skills.

When corporate sociopaths try in some unanticipated way to disrupt efforts where you’re making progress, you want to be able to adapt and keep going as readily as possible. It’s critical to do the strategic thinking that allows you to stay several steps ahead at all times.

5. Make smart trade-offs to keep the corporate sociopath placated and occupied.

If your boss is the offender, you can’t play the “avoid” and “small talk” cards all the time. Decipher what’s important and what isn’t to the organization – not to the corporate sociopath. What that insight, placate sociopaths on all minor things you can to ideally buy a little room for quiet defiance on things that really do count. If you’re in a position to do it, pair a lower impact team member with the sociopath to provide attention and crank through the busywork sociopaths create. In exchange, offer strong support and counsel to the person assigned to this role.

6. Carefully identify others who understand there’s a problem person in your midst.

Be on the lookout for others who hint at frustration or exasperation with a corporate sociopath. Probe, without saying or revealing anything self-incriminating, and see where their loyalties are and what perspectives they’ll express. It may be someone you can work with more closely to get things accomplished. Again, be careful it’s someone you can ABSOLUTELY trust.

7. Protect yourself at all times.

Keep yourself above reproach. This makes it more difficult for corporate sociopaths (especially horrible bosses) to try to throw you under the bus. Protect yourself by:

  • Putting your ego to the side. Your objective should be making good progress for the organization. Concentrate on a personal sense of accomplishment because corporate sociopaths aren’t going to make you feel GOOD about YOUR efforts.
  • Consciously trying to get out of the working situation you’re in, if at all possible. This isn’t destined to be rewarding work. Try to minimize how much time you have to deal with this person and ignore them as much as possible.
  • Never depending on a corporate sociopath to do real work. Cover your bases by minimizing any dependencies on them completing tasks. If they do own a task, figure out how to make sure someone else is backing them up.
  • Always thinking, but never saying everything you think, even to those you really trust.

Are you dealing with a sociopath in business?

If you have had to or are currently dealing with horrible bosses or other sociopaths in your organization, what have you experienced in dealing with a sociopath and still trying to do good work?Mike Brown


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  • http://twitter.com/pilatescross J. Alex Greenwood

    Fantastic post. I actually worked for a man with those very qualities–though brilliant and successful, he made life a living hell for a lot of people. A few years after I moved on it turned out he was under investigation for embezzlement and other misconduct. It did not end well. Go figure.

    • Anonymous

      “Where there’s smoke there’s fire” is such a trite phrase, but I guess it’s over-used because it’s so often true! Thinking about your example, Alex, maybe another motivation for people with extreme personalities is to distract attention from other bad stuff they’re doing. That fits somebody else I used as a reference point for this post who is part of my personal life. That person always seems to have some bizarre behavior going on to pull attention away from negative activity.

      Thanks for expanding the perspective on the post!

  • http://twitter.com/stephenlahey Stephen Lahey

    How about firing them? How about moving on to an organization that has no tolerance for people like this? How about starting a business of your own? I think that almost anything is better than having to deal with sociopaths on a daily basis.

    • Anonymous

      As I mentioned in the post, Stephen, these recommendations are premised on you not being able to fire them.

      There are obviously a whole variety of actions you can take to leave. That’s not in the cards for everyone to do for any number of reasons – some under an individual’s control and maybe others not.

      For the couple that I have had to deal with where my near-term flexibility to do something was limited, these ideas have been effective in both getting things done and minimizing the personal stress associated with working with them.

      Thanks for adding the “get out of Dodge” options not listed in the post!

      • http://twitter.com/stephenlahey Stephen Lahey

        The steps that you outlined are well thought out and make good sense to me. At the same time, I’m suggesting that once you know that you’re stuck working with a sociopath it’s time to begin the process of evaluating your options. As a headhunter, I’ve seen the damage that these people can do. 

        • Anonymous

          I definitely agree about the importance of evaluating options – it should be going on all the time (I say as a planner). Guess it would have helped to know you then; I could have used a call or two from a headhunter!

  • Cheri Allbritton

    The things one could say if they didn’t work WITH, but rather FOR such a person. Does the book Management By Intimidation ring a bell? Good times are not had by all. All being anyone at ANY level beneath the person.

    • Anonymous

      The problems aren’t just for people under a sociopath. I’ve seen them cause challenges laterally and upwards as well, Cheri. As the phrase I stole from my friend Tony Vannicola (and used above) goes, they are simply “bad for business,” among other things.

  • http://twitter.com/MGRecruiter Marguerite Granat

    The key to working or dealing with a sociopath as you said above Mike is to leave the ego at the door. You’ll never be right and you can’t reveal your position. You can’t ever  challenge directly because this type of individual is usually very good with rebuttals-they’ll never admit they made a mistake. Integrity is nowhere to be found or the ability to feel remorse for their actions. Setting boundaries is critical in dealing with these types and as little contact as possible.

    • Anonymous

      The avoid direct confrontation piece is an intriguing one, Marguerite. I had a situation where a client was exhibiting what, in retrospect, was probably sociopathic behavior throughout a project. In trying to address an issue the person raised, I was called out as being “defensive.” It immediately put me in the corner – to continue standing up for my point would make the person seem correct, and the alternative (shutting up) took my out of the discussion. Arghhh – the perfect argument! Client 1, Mike 0.

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  • Valkyra1969

    One strategy that I have found helpful is to be flat emotionally – have no emotional response to whatever they say or do then they do not know how to read you anymore and will start to go through their psychopathic reprotoire in a effort to get a response of some kind.  Very predictable and revealing as well as helpful in helping you to profile them better.  Once you can profile the psychopath/sociopath you are force by circumstance to interact with, you can continue to develop better strategies for interaction.  Always pretend as though nothing is wrong and never show any fear – ever.  They feed off of fear.  Practice being fearless.

  • Cpwhyte

    I work at a small accounting firm and my boss (the owner) is a socio path and I learned the hard way. I confronted him on his lack of structure in the workplace and he told me a good workman doesn’t complain about his tools. He constantly verbally abuse all the staff, we are still there because the finding a job is hard. This info will help me to better deal with him because I’m a no-nonsense and I really feel at the end of my rope with that man.

    • http://www.brainzooming.com Mike Brown

      Wow. It’s particularly challenging to deal with a sociopath when it’s a small organization because there are typically fewer options to avoiding them or neutralizing their impact. I’m so glad these ideas look like they will be of benefit to you. Let me know if there are other things you find that work so that we can add to the list of things to help others. All the best! Mike

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  • DM5492

    I know this is an old article but my fiance works for a guy like this.  He’s constantly shooting down her ideas then passes off the same ideas 3-6 months later as his own.   Additionally, he’ll tell her to stop working on a particular aspect of her duties and then when the owner asks why that area is slack he throws her under the bus like it’s her fault.  He’ll also be very kind to her face but will talk crap about her behind her back to everyone.  He makes her out to be a villain in some sort of attempt to gain sympathy from everyone else by talking about how difficult *she* is work with.  The problem is that this guy is one step below the CEO and is really good friends with the CEO.  This guy has the CEO wrapped around his finger.

    • piscesbec

      Then she needs to find another job. As long as he stays and she stays her life will be miserable.

  • pisces

    Sadly, I have had the sociopath or pyschopath boss. It was a small business and he was the owner. He changed the rules often so what was the “right” way to do something one day was utterly wrong the next. There is only one solution to working with someone like that. Leave. Whatever it costs you financially is nowhere near as much as it costs you physically and emotionally.

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  • Schratboy

    Why would you WANT to survive or work for one? To me, sociopathy and psychopathy are to be avoided. Surviving them? Exit the situation and warn others to do the same.

    • http://www.brainzooming.com Mike Brown

      As the comments note below, some people can’t always leave, especially in the near-term. There’s also the situation where the sociopath may be in and out of your business life; just enough to be a nusiance, but not enough to make you change jobs. I had one who fit that description. I avoided the sociopath as much as possible, but only had one stretch where it was a direct reporting relationship.

  • ryan

    My boss is a sociopath. I worked under her at a small company for 5 years. She had a, “beat the mules that pull the load” way of managing. Amongst other things she also belittled associates and constantly contradicted herself. I couldnt take it anymore I got the district mngr and regional HR involved. Now she is history and no matter what the company will be a better workplace.

    • http://www.brainzooming.com Mike Brown

      Good for you you in taking that step. And good for the company that they stepped up and did something about your boss…not every company would.